The Squeeze Technique: Step By Step Guide
Written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller on Jul 12th, 2021
Every guy wants to perform well between the sheets—and the squeeze technique just might help you to do just that if you’re looking to last longer in bed.
This is one of many exercises that sex therapists and other sex experts often recommend to help with premature ejaculation (PE).
Some men find that it does wonders but, as with every sexual performance exercise, it doesn’t work for everyone.
The squeeze technique is typically one of the first premature ejaculation exercises that men try because it is easy to learn, it’s free, and it does not require any special equipment.
However, timing is everything and a high level of self-control is a must in order for it to be mastered.
In this article, we’ll cover step-by-step instructions on how to do the squeeze technique.
With careful concentration and self-control, you just might find that this technique is exactly what you needed to build bedroom confidence.
But first, let's cover the basics and most frequently asked questions about the technique.
What Is The Squeeze Technique?
Developers of ‘The Squeeze Technique’, Virginia Johnson (left) and William Masters (right).
In the 1950s, the pioneers of the modern sex therapy movement, William Masters and Virginia Johnson, were changing the way Americans thought about and experienced sex.
Masters and Johnson were among the first American researchers to focus their academic work on helping people and couples to solve sexual problems and to study the physiology of sexual response.
They released multiple scientific papers and published several popular mass-market books on the subject.
While much of their work was theoretical, it also had a lot of practical applications.
One of their most widely used and enduring contributions to sex therapy was the development and popularization of an effective and free way of helping men control premature ejaculation.
In Human Sexual Inadequacy (published in 1970), Masters and Johnson called their new method ‘The Squeeze Technique’.
You may have heard people refer to this technique by several other names, such as 'the squeeze method’, 'the stop and squeeze’, or 'the pause squeeze technique,’ but they all refer to the same thing.
More than a half century later, many guys around the world continue to use the squeeze technique in order to last longer in bed.
How Does The Squeeze Technique Work
The squeeze technique for premature ejaculation works by manually preventing ejaculate from exiting the body. By applying pressure to the penis.
The idea is pretty straightforward, but to fully understand how and why it works, we need a quick penis anatomy lesson.
Look at the image above and find where the head of the penis meets the shaft. This area is called the frenulum.
This is what you need to target when using this technique.
By temporarily stopping sex and squeezing the penis at just the right time and in the correct place, it is possible to close off the urethra just enough to prevent ejaculation and extend intercourse.
How To Do The Squeeze Technique
While the idea behind this technique is simple, this doesn't mean that getting it to work is easy. In fact, it takes practice—a lot of practice. And that is not such a bad thing.
One of the best parts of the squeeze technique is its flexibility because you can try it on your own or with a partner.
To give you the most options, you can find descriptions below for doing it yourself, as well as a way to work with a partner.
Using The Squeeze Method On Your Own
If you don't currently have a partner or simply prefer to deal with PE by yourself, you can quite literally take this issue into your own hands.
Also, even if you intend to use the squeeze technique with a partner, it is often a good idea to practice on your own first.
Instructions To Do The Squeeze Technique For Masturbation
- Start by gently stimulating yourself until you become erect. If you have severe PE, you may need to take frequent breaks whenever you feel the urge to climax.
- Notice the slightly raised area that runs down the center of the penile shaft—the frenulum. Just below the head, place your forefinger on the frenulum and place your thumb on the other side of the penis.
- Apply pressure to your frenulum with your thumb and forefinger.
- Give yourself a few light squeezes for practice. You’ll eventually need to figure out how hard to squeeze to stop the flow of ejaculate, but remember to stop immediately if you feel pain at any time.
- Now give it a go for real. Masturbate normally until you start to feel the urge to ejaculate.
- Stop and get your hand in the correct position and squeeze the penis for about five seconds or until your urge to cum goes away.
- Pause for around 30 seconds and then resume masturbation.
Repeat the process four or five times—bring yourself to the edge, squeeze, pause, and resume—before allowing yourself to finally orgasm.
Don't be disappointed if you are unable to control your orgasm entirely on the first few tries. It will probably take multiple sessions to perfect the technique.
Using The Squeeze Method With A Partner
Finding a solution for your quick ejaculation with the help of your sexual partner can be a bonding experience, but make sure it is something she or he wants to do.
Both of you need to be on board when it comes to using this method because if not, it can decrease sexual satisfaction.
Instructions To Do The Squeeze Technique With A Partner
- Show your lover where to place their fingers. Allow your partner to find a comfortable hand position. Note that they may grasp the frenulum differently than you would during masturbation, and that’s okay (for example, they will probably place the thumb on the frenulum and the forefinger behind it).
- Give your partner a demonstration of how much pressure they should apply based on what you learned during your practice sessions.
- Let your partner practice holding their hands in the correct position and applying the right amount of pressure.
- Create a signal, perhaps a gesture or word, which you will use to indicate that you are about to climax and you are ready for them to use the technique.
- After you have these steps down, start your regular sexual routine. As you near the point of no return, signal your lover.
- Stop and allow your partner to use the technique. After the urge goes away, pause for 30 seconds before resuming stimulation
Repeat the process 4 to 5 times before allowing yourself to orgasm. Be conscious of the enjoyment level of your partner, and make sure they are satisfied as well.
Does The Squeeze Technique Really Work?
The simple answer is, yes, it usually does.
For example, Masters and Johnson reported that this method treated greater than 85 percent of patients successfully within three months. In light of these numbers, it would appear that this is a viable way to help many men treat premature ejaculation.
If this method is not working for you, however, all is not lost. There are several other ways to control PE that might work instead.
The Alternative Options For The Squeeze Technique
There are lots of different methods for treating PE, ranging from topical desensitizing sprays to condoms and exercise.
If you are looking for more tips to last longer in bed, you might want to try it out one or more of these alternatives:
Using a condom can help decrease the sensitivity of the penis, thus increasing a man’s chances of lasting longer; however, it may take a bit of experimentation to get this to work well for you.
If you are already wearing a condom but it’s not helping with PE, you may want to try one that's thicker. Thicker condoms are typically sold as "extra safe" or "extra strength."
This wording is basically saying that the condom is thicker than normal, which is likely to decrease sensation.
Still not doing the trick? You can also try condoms with pre-applied numbing gel on the inside.
However, be aware that some people who use condoms with numbing gel report too much of a general numbing sensation.
Also, these condoms need to be applied very carefully to ensure the numbing agent doesn’t affect your partner.
Use Delays Sprays, Gels, Or Creams
Instead of depending on a numbing condom that affects the entire penis, you can opt to pinpoint the most sensitive areas with Promescent delay spray.
The advantage of this over other methods is that delay sprays are easy to apply when and where you want, and you can decide how much to use.
It is a very personalized treatment that has been clinically shown to work on-demand and when you need it most.
When using Promescent delay spray, transference to the partner is minimal and condoms aren’t needed if you and your partner prefer not to use them or don’t require them for contraceptive purposes.
The Start-Stop Method
Some guys don't feel comfortable with the squeeze technique approach to control ejaculation.
For example, they may find that the pressure is a little painful or that the hand position is awkward.
If so, you may prefer to use the stop-start method instead. Many people like to call this method ‘edging’.
To use this technique, have sex as usual until you reach the brink of orgasm, then stop.
You do not necessarily have to withdraw, just stop thrusting until the urge to ejaculate subsides.
Once the urge passes, resume, stop when another orgasm is about to happen, and then repeat this cycle over and over until you are ready to climax.
Because there is nothing physically blocking ejaculation, the stop-start method can be more challenging to master than the squeeze technique for some guys.
However, it may be worth the effort.
Many men find that once they know what they are doing, the start-stop method not only helps to prevent premature ejaculation, but it can also heighten the sensation of orgasm.
The PEA app is a free application for iOS and Android that can help you master this technique.
Many people only think of Kegel exercises as something that women do to tone and strengthen their pelvic floor following childbirth.
However, research shows that they are also a great way for men who experience premature ejaculation issues to gain greater control of their orgasms. Unlike the squeeze technique or the stop-start method, Kegel exercises are not performed during sexual activity.
This is a form of isometric exercise that helps to strengthen certain muscles that are related to premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction (ED).
Performing Kegel exercises are easy, and it only takes a few minutes per day.
First, you need to learn which muscles to focus your attention on. You can find these muscles by trying to stop urinating midstream.
Once you identify the muscles, one way to do a simple Kegel exercise is to tighten and hold those muscles for a five-second count. Do this ten times in a row, two to three times per day, and you are well on your way to improving your sex life.
You can learn a lot more about Kegel exercises and how they can help men here: Male Kegel Exercises to Last Longer: Step by Step Guide
When it comes to treating premature ejaculation, there are a lot of different options to consider.
The squeeze technique is a relatively quick and easy way to gain more ejaculatory control, but it may not be the right solution for you. While it works just fine for some, others may find the technique to be uncomfortable or awkward.
Trying the technique while masturbating and then introducing it to your partner is likely to be the best approach. It will make the process more comfortable and you’ll know just how much pressure to tell your partner to apply to your penis to ensure it works. Just remember that practice makes perfect.
And if it doesn’t work?
The good news is that there are plenty of other treatment options available, from over-the-counter products like Promescent to condoms to different exercises.
Check out some of the resources below to discover more about other techniques that could potentially help you improve your bedroom performance.